Posts filed as “Relationships”

Be the Calm in the Storm

My sister is sick. It’s cancer, and it’s well along. It was hiding and gaining strength for some time before it showed itself. And it showed itself only a couple months ago. She is doing all the right things. She is consulting doctors, reaching out to family and friends, undergoing painful surgery, working in rehab,…

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The Surprising Skills Needed in the Future

It’s a chaotic, fast-changing time we live in. Automation, artificial intelligence, augmented reality, cyber-threats, business bots, and the internet of things. It would seem that in this age of hyper-accelerating technology, we would need the techie skills to match. Maybe, maybe not. Recently Deloitte conducted a survey to understand the millennial generation and get their…

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Your New Idea Is Not Where You Think It Is

In the 1950s, in rural Oklahoma, at a place called Robbers Cave, several researchers performed an experiment we would find unethical today. They invited twenty-two eleven-year-old boys to participate in a three week camp. The researchers advertised a wholesome summer camp experience. The experience they delivered was very different. What the researchers actually did was…

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Snap out of the Trance of Unworthiness

The 13-year old boys walked off the field kicking dirt and shaking their heads. Aiden anguished, “If Ben’s shot had gone in, it would have been a totally different game.” In the first few seconds of the game, immediately after kick-off, the boys had a fast break down the right side, and suddenly Ben was…

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You. Put It in Your Work.

Are you funny? Sarcastic? Witty? A dog lover? Maybe your passion is coaching youth sports. Or maybe it’s a cup of tea and a sci-fi novel on the couch. Maybe it’s Downton Abbey or maybe it’s The Walking Dead. Maybe it’s snowboarding with your kids. Whatever it is. Whatever gets your groove on, put it…

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Being Available Is Not the Same as Being Engaged

Many things we chase after in our lives are elastic. The amount of twitter followers we seek, the number of likes on an instagram post, the amount of money we make, and the number of fitbit steps we take each day. We think these numbers can just keep going up and up if we work…

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The Small Rituals of Great Teams

In our house if the coffee isn’t ready by the time my wife leaves to teach, her mojo is off for the whole morning. I’m sure lack of caffeine is part of the problem, but it’s only half of the story. Another meaningful part of the process is the brewing of the coffee, the pouring…

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Nobody Else Knows What They Are Doing Either

“I don’t belong here. I have no idea what I’m doing. They’re going to figure out I’m a fraud.” Have you ever believed you are not deserving or worried people will reveal you as a fraud? Have you ever thought someone else could do your job better, or thought you got that bonus or promotion…

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Your “Smartphone” May Be Dumbing Down Your Conversations

“People who had conversations in the absence of mobile devices reported higher levels of empathetic concern.” – Shalini Misra American adults are consuming over 11 hours of digital media daily. Keep in mind we are only awake 16 to 17 hours a day. It’s been steadily increasing over the years for American kids too. Today,…

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Go ahead and ask. You can be more assertive than you think.

Recently our daughter Annie and I were at the store picking out a card to for her to send to a friend. In the card display was a big section dedicated to Taylor Swift. We examined each card – Taylor Swift looking dreamy, sassy, alluring, or even defiant. Taylor can certainly strike a pose. I…

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