Posts filed as “Relationships”

Go ahead and ask. You can be more assertive than you think.

Recently our daughter Annie and I were at the store picking out a card to for her to send to a friend. In the card display was a big section dedicated to Taylor Swift. We examined each card – Taylor Swift looking dreamy, sassy, alluring, or even defiant. Taylor can certainly strike a pose. I…

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Does Your Company Have a Mental Dress Code?

Bafflegab noun, North American, informal Meaning: incomprehensible or pretentious language, especially bureaucratic jargon. “the smooth chairman had elevated bafflegab to an art form” If we took a time machine back to the 1990s and visited American corporate culture, in addition to wide ties and blocky cell phones, we would also see the Apple Newton in…

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Yes, We Can Ditch the Drama

“I am not a victim of emotional conflicts. I am human.” – Marilyn Monroe Few things are as disruptive as repetitive and negative emotional cycles. To find new results, we need to also find new ways of interacting with each other. According to psychologist Stephen Karpman, there are three distinct roles, or personas, that we…

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Are you (or your boss) being poisoned by power?

Deborah Gruenfeld is a professor of Organizational Behavior at Stanford. For years, she and her colleagues have been studying the effects of power – particularly the effect of power disparities in the workplace. In one small, but powerful, example of her work, they brought together students in groups of three. Of the three students, one was chosen…

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Thank Outside the Box

The promotion you just got? A beautiful sunset with your family? That’s amateur stuff to be grateful for. The waiter just refilled your coffee? Oh, how considerate. You thank him. Now you feel warm and thoughtful. Step up people. Try being grateful for losing a big contract, or your U12 soccer team getting crushed on…

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You Will Feel Happier When You Appreciate Others

Expressing appreciation for someone in your life can change your whole outlook. That’s right. Simply telling someone else how much you appreciate them will improve how you feel. Jeffrey Froh, professor at Hofstra University, did this cool study in which he and his colleagues tracked students in eleven different classrooms, and divided them into three groups. For just a…

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How to Stop Your Boss From Ruining Your Work

I had several different bosses during the early years of writing ‘Dilbert.’ They were all pretty sure I was mocking someone else. – Scott Adams Every evening, all around the world, we come home from work, greet our partners, our kids, and have discussions. Discussions in the kitchen, at the dinner table, and before we…

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Always Assume Best Intentions

A young woman is waiting in a busy airport. She has some time to kill so she buys a little bag of cookies and sits down with her book to read. Pretty soon a young man comes and sits beside her and starts reading a magazine. They keep to themselves and after a couple minutes…

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Kindness is the Killer App

I recently interviewed Gene Klein, 87-year old holocaust survivor, born in Czechoslovakia in 1928. In our interview as he vividly recounted the horrors of the experience, the only time he became emotional and tearful was when he recollected small acts of kindness – a guard who gave him portions of food, inmates who gave him…

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Does your boss have a sense of humor?

Did you ever walk in a room and forget why you walked in? I think that’s how dogs spend their lives. – Sue Murphy Forty years ago Norman Cousins, editor of the Saturday Review, had been given six months to live. He’d been diagnosed with a painful, degenerative disease of the spine. Although Cousins was…

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