Posts filed as “Relationships”

An Easy Trick to Building Inclusion: Lessons from the Playground

On the playground, at recess, at our daughter’s elementary school, there is something called the Buddy Bench. According to Annie, it’s where you can go and sit if you don’t have any friends to play with. Then, if you see someone sitting there, alone on the Buddy Bench, your job is to go over and…

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How the Happiest People Think and Act

The happiest parts of vacations are planning them. The most joyous time is before we even pack our bags. And only those who were able to really, truly check out and relax reported a performance and happiness boost after returning to work. We aren’t very good at remembering how we felt in the past. We…

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When We Feel Pressure to Be Fake

“Vulnerability is the last thing I want you to see in me, but the first thing I look for in you.” – Brené Brown When my Mom was first diagnosed with cancer, her first impulse was that she didn’t want to tell anyone. She thought maybe people would see her as vulnerable, frail or dying….

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Money can buy happiness… If you give it away

Imagine that every morning someone gives you an envelope with either $5 or $20. You never know which. And each day you are asked to either spend it on a treat for yourself, or spend it on a gift for someone else. Then that same person calls you at 5pm to ask how your day…

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Have a goal? You can double your odds of success.

A colleague called me yesterday and said, “I want to talk about commitment.” We had just finished brainstorming an idea over a few days and we both agreed we had something good, quite good, excellent actually. She wanted to have that conversation about accountability, about follow through. Which got me thinking about how to improve…

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Why Do You Hide From Your Boss?

According to researcher Robert Hogan, 75% of working adults today say the most stressful, most dreaded interactions they have at work is with their immediate boss. Stress-inducing bosses have even been linked to increases in heart desease related illnesses. Studies show that the correlation of bad bosses and heart trauma seem to occur together, just…

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Dreaded Conversations…And Avoiding Being One Yourself

Slydial is the app that lets you go straight to voicemail, safe from the possibility that someone might actually answer your call. One reason Slydial exists is because of the energy vampires in the world. Those people you dread talking to because they leave you depleted, bummed out, frustrated, or annoyed with every conversation. However hopeful…

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You Don’t Have to Be Lonely at Work

You see, recent studies reflect that a little over half of us, at one time or another, experience periods of intense loneliness in our professional lives. But loneliness is not depression or shyness or poor social skills, and it certainly isn’t introversion. It’s more a feeling of estrangement, of alienation – a sense of not belonging to a place, or a culture….

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The High Cost of Hiding Yourself

Recently I was asked to be a guest speaker at an event designed for executives of a big technology company. I wore a black suit. The very next day I spoke at a marketing group event of a Silicon Valley gaming company. Unsure of what to wear I asked, and they said, “jeans and chucks.” And…

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Give the Gift of Time

If only HP knew what HP knows, we’d be three times more productive. —Lew Platt, former CEO of Hewlett-Packard Everyone is so busy these days, overwhelmed by complexity and uncertainty, that it’s hard to know what to do or who to talk to in order to accomplish daring, and unexpectedly awesome initiatives. And so we…

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