A Trick to Avoid Frustration and Stress

Someone in a big SUV, talking on the phone, oblivious to everyone around them, just cut you off. How do you feel? Just today, in a meeting, your boss contradicted you, again. How do you feel? That imbecile over in product management just got the promotion you wanted. How about now? The plane has just…

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No, Time is Not Money

How would you answer these questions? Would you prefer a less expensive apartment with a longer commute, or a more expensive apartment closer to work? Would you buy a more expensive direct flight, or a less expensive flight with a layover? Would you choose a job with a higher starting salary, which required more hours…

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The Work of Confidence

People are rewarded in public for what they practice for years in private. – Tony Robbins In an interview, Jake Gyllenhall once described his acting preparation as accessing a parallel world through grinding determination and hard work. For example, to prepare for the movie Southpaw, he spent five months at boxing clubs, talking to boxers,…

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What’s Possible When We Are Not Afraid

“The thing I fear most is fear.” – Michel de Montaigne, 1580 Corruption, muggings, police brutality, whooping cough, tornados, and pandemics all rank in the top 25 of American fears of the last year. Dig a little deeper down the list and avian flu, pesticides, identity theft, and flesh-eating disease show up. Sometimes these fears…

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You. Put It in Your Work.

Are you funny? Sarcastic? Witty? A dog lover? Maybe your passion is coaching youth sports. Or maybe it’s a cup of tea and a sci-fi novel on the couch. Maybe it’s Downton Abbey or maybe it’s The Walking Dead. Maybe it’s snowboarding with your kids. Whatever it is. Whatever gets your groove on, put it…

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Believe in Your Goals, but Earn Your Gifts

You’ve probably heard of the Pygmalion effect. It’s when people start to escalate their performance because of the expectations others have of them. It’s named after the Greek myth of Pygmalion who fell in love with an ivory sculpture he created. He loved his sculpture so much that he wished her alive as his wife,…

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Being Available Is Not the Same as Being Engaged

Many things we chase after in our lives are elastic. The amount of twitter followers we seek, the number of likes on an instagram post, the amount of money we make, and the number of fitbit steps we take each day. We think these numbers can just keep going up and up if we work…

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Your Words Can Change Your Brain

Our words matter. We can lose more weight, save more money, smile more, and make a greater impact on the world around us simply by changing the words we use. The language we use counts. The words, phrases, and verb tenses we use affect the way we see the world and the decisions we make…

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Do You Know When to Disobey?

What if your boss asks you to do something you think is wrong? What if there are practices your company engages in that are just ridiculous, or redundant? Or worse, what if there is an institutionalized process in your company that you think is flat-out unethical? Maybe you work in a look-the-other-way culture, or a…

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Do You Have a Job or a Calling?

There’s nothing quite so inspiring as seeing someone embrace their work in the pursuit of excellence, or in service of a greater mission. And there’s nothing quite so moving as witnessing small acts of excellence, generosity, and kindness. Often the most moving and inspiring stories are about competitors who become comrades, or everyday people taking…

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