Posts filed as “Decisions”

Drop the Brag List. What Will You Accomplish Tomorrow?

Achievement pressure starts young. By the time they hit high school, many kids today are overloaded with AP classes, injured or in physical therapy with non-stop athletic activities, and all the while pressured to pad out their community service resume so they can look better on college applications. The pressure is relentless. Episodes of depression…

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The United Airlines Crisis of Human Dignity

Someone working in that situation should have had the strength and presence to say, “Hold up a minute. We don’t do that. We don’t treat people like that. It’s not who we are.” The United Airlines event yesterday was an attack on human dignity, the most basic of human needs. The people staffing that flight…

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How Do You Approach Your Work?

How you approach your work matters. You don’t have to repeat to yourself focus, focus, focus… there are some specific ways you can prime yourself to choose better priorities, and be more productive. How you set your mind and your body into your work can make a big impact on the quality of the work…

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Why It’s Better to Ask for Help

I actually think the same things do make most people happy. The differences are extremely small, and around the margins. You like peach ice cream; I like strawberry ice cream. Both of us like ice cream much better than a smack on the head. – Dan Gilbert Let’s say you are weighing a big decision…

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Why Is It So Hard to Live Up To Our Values?

I’ve known communication experts with dysfunctional relationships, professional speakers who decline events because they are horrified to go on stage, and time management gurus who are late to meetings. I’ve met renowned thought-leaders who fabricate some of their work to get published, and personal change advisors who are terrified of change. Why is it so…

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A Small Shift to Ask More Powerful Questions

Typewriters with ribbons, developed in the 1950s, were excellent at speeding up typists, but not so good at erasing their mistakes. Bette Nesmith Graham was a typist by day, and a painter by night. She wondered, “What if I could cover up my typing mistakes the same way I cover up my painting mistakes?” She…

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A Mental Trick to Achieving Your Big Goals

O, the places you will go! In this season of graduation and change, anything is possible. We’re told from a very young age we can do anything we set our mind to. Olympic gold medal winner Seth Wescott once signed a poster for our son, and wrote on it, “Go big! Live your dreams.” Sometimes…

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A Trick to Avoid Frustration and Stress

Someone in a big SUV, talking on the phone, oblivious to everyone around them, just cut you off. How do you feel? Just today, in a meeting, your boss contradicted you, again. How do you feel? That imbecile over in product management just got the promotion you wanted. How about now? The plane has just…

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No, Time is Not Money

How would you answer these questions? Would you prefer a less expensive apartment with a longer commute, or a more expensive apartment closer to work? Would you buy a more expensive direct flight, or a less expensive flight with a layover? Would you choose a job with a higher starting salary, which required more hours…

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What’s Possible When We Are Not Afraid

“The thing I fear most is fear.” – Michel de Montaigne, 1580 Corruption, muggings, police brutality, whooping cough, tornados, and pandemics all rank in the top 25 of American fears of the last year. Dig a little deeper down the list and avian flu, pesticides, identity theft, and flesh-eating disease show up. Sometimes these fears…

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