Posts filed as “Decisions”

When to Let Others Fail on Their Own

  It was getting out of hand. It was time for an intervention. Only a year earlier we had a 30 minute “screen time” media option in our house for our three kids. After homework, after chores, after mealtime together, and after checking in and sharing with us their daily activities, they could zone out on NetFlix,…

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Quitting is easy. Living with Quitting is Hard

Your son doesn’t like 7th grade band? Let him quit. Training for that marathon is too hard? Just quit. Feeling frustrated or detached from your work. Quit. It’s easy. Tired of not making progress on your writing project? Drop it, lose it, let it go. Yah! That felt good. Go to Google and start typing “top…

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Your Expertise Might Be An Illusion

Here’s an old brain trick: Look below. Which line is longer? You know this trick. They are the same, right?   But I changed the trick. Here are the same lines as above but I took the fins off. Look again.   Yes. You see they are different now. Ten percent different. Maybe you weren’t fooled because you anticipated a…

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Nourish Your Pack First

Rona Cant, of Oxford England, should change her name to Rona Can. After being an English housewife and raising two children, she decided life was missing something. She wasn’t the type to host afternoon tea, so she started a business in fabrics and upholstery. That wasn’t quite satisfying enough, so she decided she needed another…

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Money can buy happiness… If you give it away

Imagine that every morning someone gives you an envelope with either $5 or $20. You never know which. And each day you are asked to either spend it on a treat for yourself, or spend it on a gift for someone else. Then that same person calls you at 5pm to ask how your day…

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Have a goal? You can double your odds of success.

A colleague called me yesterday and said, “I want to talk about commitment.” We had just finished brainstorming an idea over a few days and we both agreed we had something good, quite good, excellent actually. She wanted to have that conversation about accountability, about follow through. Which got me thinking about how to improve…

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The Busier You Are, The More You Need a Break

Recently over here at Skillsoft we did a survey in collaboration with Scott Eblin, leadership expert and author of the new book Overworked and Overwhelmed: The Mindfulness Alternative. In this short study we asked many questions about how we, all busy professionals, spend our days – when we wake up, how long our commute is, how many…

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Is Luck a Choice?

Rabbit’s feet, four leaf clovers, and rain during sunshine are all signs of fortune and good luck. The good luck ritual of “knocking on wood” comes from pre-christian rituals in which it was considered important to invoke the powerful and benign influence of the tree gods. Cats throughout history have been both powerful and good (ancient…

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You are Successful. But Distracted. Possibly Bored. What Happened?

You are successful. You worked hard for years with laser focus developing unique and sought-after expertise that no one else could quite replicate at your company. It paid off. You are highly valued. People ask your opinion. They invite you to join projects. They buy you drinks. But lately you are distracted, almost bored. It’s not…

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Your Decisions Become Your Possessions

If I make a decision it is a possession, I take pride in it, I tend to defend it and not listen to those who question it. A decision is something you polish. – Paul Gleason, wildland firefighter In 1994, 14 heroic firefighters perished in the South Canyon fire in Colorado. Although they had been…

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