Posts filed as “Culture”

Change the Environment, Change Your Thinking

“It’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking, than to think your way into a new way of acting.” – Jerry Sternin How do we help someone learn something new, or attempt something difficult? Instead of adjusting rewards and incentives, or scaring people with negative punishments, try changing the environment. Disney’s…

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Cycling Across America with Teenagers: Indian Spirits

Hello everyone. For the past two months, since June 8, myself with two other dads and four of our teenage kids have been cycling across the United States from Seattle to Yarmouth Maine. The point was to learn something about ourselves, our world, and provide a learning adventure for our kids. I’m publishing a few…

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Ruminating is Not Problem Solving

How did you sleep last night? Toss and turn? Stay awake fretting about your big deadline? About money, or health, or your kids, or cleaning out the attic? When we lie awake thinking through the issues of our lives we often aren’t working through how to solve these problems, but instead ruminating on these issues…

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Never Believe You Are Helpless

“You must never confuse the faith that you will prevail in the end… with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they may be.” That quote comes from U.S. Navy Admiral James Stockdale, who was captured by the Vietnamese, tortured over twenty times, and imprisoned for eight years during…

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Drop the Brag List. What Will You Accomplish Tomorrow?

Achievement pressure starts young. By the time they hit high school, many kids today are overloaded with AP classes, injured or in physical therapy with non-stop athletic activities, and all the while pressured to pad out their community service resume so they can look better on college applications. The pressure is relentless. Episodes of depression…

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The United Airlines Crisis of Human Dignity

Someone working in that situation should have had the strength and presence to say, “Hold up a minute. We don’t do that. We don’t treat people like that. It’s not who we are.” The United Airlines event yesterday was an attack on human dignity, the most basic of human needs. The people staffing that flight…

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Why It’s Better to Ask for Help

I actually think the same things do make most people happy. The differences are extremely small, and around the margins. You like peach ice cream; I like strawberry ice cream. Both of us like ice cream much better than a smack on the head. – Dan Gilbert Let’s say you are weighing a big decision…

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What’s Possible If We Ignore What Other People Think?

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu On March 2 1962, Wilt “the Stilt” Chamberlain had the highest scoring NBA basketball game of all time. He scored 100 points in that game, a feat likely never to be repeated. Chamberlain was the number two highest average…

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Three Ridiculous Myths About Leadership

This article is excerpted and edited from my new book, Small Acts of Leadership. Enjoy! As one of the most revered coaches in American history, John Wooden, the “Wizard of Westwood,” coached his University of California basketball team to an unprecedented ten national championship titles in twelve years. This remarkable winning streak included an astonishing…

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The Science of Controlling Your Own Destiny

Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? – Carol Dweck Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words can change our brain. There is a scene in the new movie Dr. Strange in which a character describes how he healed an impossible injury through…

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