Posts filed as “Learning”

Your New Idea Is Not Where You Think It Is

In the 1950s, in rural Oklahoma, at a place called Robbers Cave, several researchers performed an experiment we would find unethical today. They invited twenty-two eleven-year-old boys to participate in a three week camp. The researchers advertised a wholesome summer camp experience. The experience they delivered was very different. What the researchers actually did was…

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Vulnerability Is Courage, Is Impact

Here’s an idea that might be slowing you down. Do you ever think to yourself, “I can’t try that, it’s already been done before! I need to find something new to show, something that’s never been done before, something that has never been seen before.” This is the inner voice trying to please others, trying…

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How to Recognize the Mindset of Your Company

Think of a time in your life when you were doing something new, and exciting, and fun. Maybe you were learning a musical instrument, trying a new sport, learning to paint, or even solving a sodoku puzzle. And then, after the thrill was gone, it got hard. It got difficult, and not easy, and not…

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Why Successful People Don’t Believe in Comparisons

“Comparison is the death of joy.” – Mark Twain I don’t mean to say successful people don’t believe in comparison, as in they don’t believe it exists. Rather, the most successful people reframe comparison as learning opportunities instead of competition. Named the “next Pelé” and going pro at the age of 14, Freddy Adu, was…

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Better Decisions Begin with More Beautiful Questions

Recently our family traveled to the Virgin Islands for a vacation. Our daily choices were pretty much reading, swimming, hiking, and sunsets. And snorkeling in beautiful warm water with beautiful, strange creatures. Almost every day we would pick a beach, pack a lunch, towels and swimming gear, and head off on a small adventure. And…

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Snap out of the Trance of Unworthiness

The 13-year old boys walked off the field kicking dirt and shaking their heads. Aiden anguished, “If Ben’s shot had gone in, it would have been a totally different game.” In the first few seconds of the game, immediately after kick-off, the boys had a fast break down the right side, and suddenly Ben was…

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A Mental Trick to Achieving Your Big Goals

O, the places you will go! In this season of graduation and change, anything is possible. We’re told from a very young age we can do anything we set our mind to. Olympic gold medal winner Seth Wescott once signed a poster for our son, and wrote on it, “Go big! Live your dreams.” Sometimes…

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A Trick to Avoid Frustration and Stress

Someone in a big SUV, talking on the phone, oblivious to everyone around them, just cut you off. How do you feel? Just today, in a meeting, your boss contradicted you, again. How do you feel? That imbecile over in product management just got the promotion you wanted. How about now? The plane has just…

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No, Time is Not Money

How would you answer these questions? Would you prefer a less expensive apartment with a longer commute, or a more expensive apartment closer to work? Would you buy a more expensive direct flight, or a less expensive flight with a layover? Would you choose a job with a higher starting salary, which required more hours…

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The Work of Confidence

People are rewarded in public for what they practice for years in private. – Tony Robbins In an interview, Jake Gyllenhall once described his acting preparation as accessing a parallel world through grinding determination and hard work. For example, to prepare for the movie Southpaw, he spent five months at boxing clubs, talking to boxers,…

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